Christmas Recap

Another Christmas has come and gone.  It's hard to believe we're already at the end of the year, but  I guess I shouldn't be surprised at how fast time flies....each year seems to go faster than the one before. 


We had a wonderful Christmas!  This was our 3rd really FUN Christmas with Carter and Shae's 1st fun one.   The kids got some wonderful gifts and we've been enjoying great quality time with family.  We chose to go south to visit my family for Thanksgiving this year and stay home for the month of December.  It's the first time since we've been married that we haven't visited my family for Christmas.  So, it's been different, but we've enjoyed it.  Tom's sister and her family have been visiting so we've been busy with them.  Plus, we've enjoyed creating our own traditions as a family.  What kind of traditions do you have?  Anything unusual?  I'm always looking for ideas since we are just getting going with our family.  I want to start things now that we can continue throughout the kids growing up.  A few things we do now are:


*Advent Calendar
    We have a little people hanging advent calendar.  If you've never seen it and have small kids, you really should check them out.   You spend the month of December creating the manger scene and on Christmas morning get to put baby Jesus in the manger.  It is SO darling!  Carter looks forward to it each day in December.
*Elf on the Shelf
     If you have never heard of this, you should check it out.  It is such a cute idea.  However, we do not do Santa at all, so instead of Elf on the Shelf, I bought a Zebra that has bendable arms/legs and we named him and call him our hide-and-seek Zebra.  No magical powers, or visits to the North Pole....just a fun animal that we can play a game with at Christmas time.  Every night we would hide him in different spots (just like Elf on the Shelf) and the first thing the kids wanted to do in the morning is look for him.  Shae' especially got really good at finding him, often times before Carter even would. 
*Joy Stocking
    This is one of my favorites.  We start right after Thanksgiving.  I leave blank paper and pen on the kitchen counter and throughout the month of December, we write joy notes to each other and place them in a special stocking we have hanging on our fireplace.  These notes start with....."you bring me joy when....." and can be filled in however.  It's just our way of saying what we are thankful for in each other.  On Christmas Eve, we read the notes aloud.  This was our 3rd year of doing this.  We actually were so busy Christmas Eve with family over, that we ended up reading them at the breakfast table Christmas morning and I really liked that too.  I can't wait until the kids are old enough to write their own notes.  It will be so fun to see what they come up with!
*Christmas Carols
   Call me old fashioned, but I LOVE singing Christmas Carols!  We do this on Christmas Eve before bedtime.  We just gather around the piano and sing as many songs as possible before the kids lose interest. HA.  Everything from Jingle Bells to Silent Night.  It's a blast.  I look forward to future Christmases when the kids can play an instrument and we can have our own little band while we sing :)
*The Christmas Story
    The last, but certainly not least, thing I'll mention is our reading of the Christmas Story.  A rule in our house is no presents are opened Christmas morning before we read the Christmas Story found in Luke 2.  This year was really sweet because Carter was SO excited to read about baby Jesus.


These are just some of our traditions.  I look forward to making many more as our family grows and the years pass.  I want traditions that my children can pass on to their children.


I'll close with some pictures from our Christmas.  I'm including some pics of my Christmas decor too.  I LOVE to deck my house out with Christmas stuff.  There's not many a corner in my home that goes untouched. :-)  

The centerpiece in our living room, that's our joy stocking hanging :)                                                     

My living room tree, yes, not much green showing I know ;)

My cozy living room.  LOVE this room.  That's my new furniture that was part of my Christmas present :)

I love to display my Christmas cards....these are just randomly stuck in this decor piece in my kitchen....I get to look at them every morning while I make my coffee :)

Our family room.  I love doing the bright colors..SO fun!  This is where we open gifts :)

The stockings are hung with care :)

Shae' on Christmas Eve

Carter on Christmas Eve

Christmas Morning :)

Caught in the act ;-)

She thought it was funny :)

The best I could get of them together

All the kids went in together and got these throws for the grandparents.  It has all the grandkids photos on it. (great-grandkids for Grandma Mim, pictured here)  Grandma Mim said she laid it across her bed and every time she walks into her room, it's like all the great grandkids are there looking at her.  How sweet! :)

Here's the grandparents with their throw.  My MIL cried like a baby when she opened it.  I would call that a successful Christmas present :) (I just realized that the bottom of the throws aren't showing in the pics...but I promise all the kids are pictured.  The throws are huge)

I pray you all had a blessed Christmas as well!  xoxo

Happy Birthday Shae'!!!

Shae' Shae'!!!  I can't believe you are turning ONE tomorrow!  Wow...this year has really flown by.  I'm excited and sad all at the same time.  Excited for all the new things you are learning and doing, but sad that you are growing so fast. :/  Please slow down, just a little please?


I can say without hesitation that you have made this last year very interesting for our family.  You started out by coming into this world in the middle of the night (4:08a.m.) and you have kept us up at night ever since.  You are definitely one tough kid to figure out.  Even as your mommy, whose supposed to 'know' what you need/want at all times, I have been at a loss countless times.  I think you are ready to change the world and just can't sleep due to all the plans running through that pretty head of yours.  It's obvious you have big plans and can't wait to start implementing them......I mean that's clear from the fact that you are so 'busy'....from walking at 10 months (and practically running now!) to always being on the go and looking for something else to do.....I can't wait to see how you change your world!


You are such a sweetheart.  I love how you are always eager to give love to your family and how you are quick to hug and kiss Carter when he's upset.  You love your brother so much!  You two will be best friends through life and I love watching the relationship between you grow. 
It's so sweet to see you light up when you see Daddy for the first time at the end of a work day, or when I come into your room first thing in the morning.  You smile with your eyes and it is so beautiful!  


You have taught me so much in the last year.  You have taught me patience that I didn't  know I was capable of.  You have taught me how to slow down and appreciate the simple things.  I've learned that those hand prints on the coffee tables can wait a little longer to be wiped off (they're actually kinda cute)...that the nose prints on the windows can stay until tomorrow (after all, you'll just put more on there tomorrow when you're watching for daddy to come home) and that sleep isn't nearly as important as I once thought (well, it's important, but I can function on far less than I once thought!  And besides, the sunrise sure is beautiful).  You've caused me to say 'no' to others far more than I ever have....and you know, that's ok.  I've learned that this is a 'season of life' that we are in.....we won't be as involved in other things as we once were.....not at this time anyway...and I'm ok with that. If I can teach you what's right, show you how to live and love and instill a love for God in your heart, then I will be more fulfilled than I've ever been doing anything else.


 Thank you baby girl for teaching me all of this.   You are going to do great things, I just know it.  And you will keep our family very interesting in the process, I'm sure.  You are beautiful inside and out and I can't imagine our family without you!


Happy Birthday Baby Shae'.  Mommy loves you!

When you were just a few hours old

a few days old here....

3 months....

8 months....

last week at church....almost 1!

at the pumpkin patch with mommy....

your 1 year pictures

Decisions....

I am in the midst of decision time and am desperately looking for some advice!  Here goes......

We have had our dog, Schroeder for 7 years now.  I love this dog.  I begged Tom for over a year to get him for me and he was like a first child for us.  He went everywhere with us, vacations, etc. and we spoiled him rotten.  Fast forward a bit.....having kids in our lives now, Schroeder has definitely become more of a 'dog' to us.  We still love him (well, I do anyway), but he is no longer the 'child' to us he once was.  I mean, we are busy with two little ones now.  And Tom is dying to get rid of him.  Sad, I know.  My husband has never been a dog lover and has only 'tolerated' the dog because of my love for him.  Since Shae' has come along and we've had such a rough go with her, Schroeder has become more and more difficult to handle.  He's not a bad dog, but he's just extra money and energy....and I'm running out of both! :/  We have had to spend quite a bit this last month on him too because of some issues he's had.  

So, I'm actually considering finding another home for him.  Now, after all of this, in my heart I just don't think I can do it, but I'm putting my feelers out there and keeping an open mind to the idea at least.  I know it would make my husband happy and make for a little more peace in our home.....I just don't know if I can part with him after 7 years!  It would be less stress in my life, but not sure if I can handle the guilt that would undoubtedly follow.  If you are reading this and not a pet owner, you will not understand, but if you are a pet owner, I need to hear from you!  Have you ever had to do anything like this?  What was the experience like for you?  

Again, I don't think I'm gonna be able to do it (sorry Tom if you're reading!)  But I'm at least considering it which is more than I've ever done.   I just want to hear some thoughts from my friends.  Comment on the blog itself rather than FB if you don't mind :)

Going crazy.....

My title is exactly what I've been up to lately.  I must warn you before I go any further.  This blog post is not for the faint of heart.  Actually, I should just say it's for women only.  Or better yet, mommy's only.  Because only mommy's will understand and be able to offer advice based on experience.   


So, as my title say's, it's been crazy around here.  Not really in a good way.  I'm learning with being a mommy, it will always be something.   Especially being a SAHM and having two little ones.  Just when you think you've got something figured out, your kids will throw you for a loop in another area.  Take my last post for example.  I was so proud of Shae' for FINALLY sleeping at night!  Only to turn around right after I posted that and start waking up again.  ugh.  I ended up taking her to her doctor and practically begging him to find something wrong with her.....ear infection please?  pathetic, I know.  I was just so desperate to find the solution to her night waking.   His comments:  "she's perfectly healthy.  I think it's mostly a personality issue."  oh great.  Is this really what I have to look forward to for the next 18+ years?   His suggestion: wean her.  He thinks it will help her sleep better at night.  I had already been thinking this same thing. SO, that's what I've been working on for about 3 weeks now.  We successfully switched to a cup (with goats milk) for her lunch and dinner feedings right away.  That left a bedtime feeding and morning feeding.  We've gone this entire week with no bedtime feeding (just a cup about an hour before bed, which she doesn't take much from).  That just leaves the morning feeding, which will be the hardest to eliminate.  See, she wakes about 5 or 5:30am every morning, nurses, then goes back to sleep til about 7:30-8am  So I'm not sure how I'm going to stop that 5am nursing session yet.  Suggestions anyone?  


She did start sleeping better when I took out the lunch and dinner nursings.  Mostly going from 8p.m.-5a.m., waking to nurse, then back to sleep til 8ish.  However, this week has been rough.  Since I've stopped the bedtime nursing, she has been waking again.  Not sure if it's related, but I hate to backtrack at this point.  


And in the midst of it all, we have started potty training Carter.  Potty training one kid and weaning the other at the same time=INSANITY!   Seriously, what was I thinking?   Actually, Carter was the one who initiated the potty training.  While his cousin was visiting a few weeks ago,  he suddenly wanted to wear underwear one day.  It happened to be the day we were going to be in the city all day.  Fab, huh?  I let him and thankfully he did not have any accidents.  How could he when I took him to the potty every 20 minutes? HA!   Well, since then, it's been touch and go.  He absolutely will not poop in the potty.  He pee's in the potty well, but still doesn't tell me when he has to.  I take him frequently during the day.  He still has accidents, but usually only one pee accident during the day, sometimes none.  But he has a poop one everyday. ugh.  The worst part is, he doesn't care if he is poopy or wet.  He doesn't tell me.  It's like it doesn't even bother him.  I would LOVE some advice from my mommy friends on this!  It's only been 1 week of hardcore potty training, but I'm already wanting to throw in the towel and stick him back in a diaper!  I feel like I spend my entire day in the bathroom with him.  And Shae' trying to crawl all over us doesn't help any.  Oh Lord, I need strength!   This week, I did go and buy prizes for him.  He gets a small prize (candy or cookie) for peeing and I have large prizes (wrapped in paper bags) sitting on top of the toilet for going and pooping in the potty.  He has yet to get a big prize, but he has tried several times to go poop because he is REALLY wanting to know what's in there! 


So, this has been my life.  Aren't you envious?  HA!  Not so glamourous, but it's my life!  Here's a few pics from the last few weeks.....

Carter and Parker riding the train

Me with my baby girl

After the boys had jumped in a mud puddle and soaked their clothes....they had to ride home in their underwear! HA!

My princess is pretty in pink :)

If you've survived this post until the end, you must be strong at heart!  Or better yet, you must be a mommy too ;)

FINALLY!

It's been a big week around here.  After months of getting hardly any sleep at night, Shae' has finally started to sleep better.  I think the Lord knew I was at my breaking point, because it happened at a time when I literally thought I was going to lose it.  Sleep deprivation is a nasty thing.  My sweet girl is almost 9 months old and it has been such a blur to me thanks to lack of sleep.  We were literally at the point of her waking every hour (every 2 if it was a good night).  So I was basically sleeping in 45 minute increments throughout the night.  This went on for about 2 solid months...EVERY night.  Tom would help out some on the weekends, but she would scream like crazy when he would get up with her...she wanted Mama.  Most times, I would end up with her anyway because he just couldn't calm her down.   So, you can only imagine how exhausted I've been.  Most days I would not get a nap during the day due to being too busy with the kids.  And even the days I did get one, it just wasn't enough to make up for the lack of sleep at night.  It was to the point that I felt sick all day from lack of sleep, nauseous, headaches, etc.  I finally caved and decided to just let her cry.  It was that or ship her off to Grandma's.  One way or another, I had to get some sleep!


So this is how we did it:   I started on Friday, with her first nap of the day.  Instead of rocking her like we usually do, I just laid her in her bed and said nite nite.  I then sat in the floor of her room with my back to her.  She stood and started screaming...and screamed....and screamed.  I tried staying in there and letting her see me, but not speaking to her, etc.  But after 30 minutes of this (a very stressful 30 minutes) I realized that this method was not going to work with her.  So I left the room.  She cried for an hour total at that nap.  I went in every 15 minutes or so and laid her down and patted her back.  This is how she ended up falling asleep.  Nap 2:  I laid her down and left the room.  She cried for 20 minutes.  After 15 I went in a patted her back and this is how she fell asleep.  Bedtime:  I read her books and cuddled, then laid her in bed, patted her back while I sang to her softly, then left the room. She cried for 12 minutes and then laid down and went to sleep.  I never went in that time.  She woke up once a few hours later and cried for less than a minute and was back asleep.  She slept the rest of the night.  This pattern continued for several nights.  Then on Monday night, she slept the entire night without waking at all.  The last 2 nights she's woken up and I've actually ended up in there rocking her, but overall it's been a good week!    We're not where my goal for her is yet (12 hours of continual sleep) but we are on the right track!  She's done 8-9 hours continual sleep this week more than once.  She is still not taking in very much solid food, mostly breastmilk still, so she can't go as long as I'd like because she gets hungry too soon.  But I'm at least seeing the light at the end of the tunnel! 


So yes, most of my FB posts have related to this topic, and so have some of my blogs, and yes, you are probably tired of hearing about it all, but this has been my life lately.  Everything else has been secondary to trying to get some SLEEP!   My time with Carter has suffered, my diet and workouts have suffered, my ability to be the wife and mother I want to be has definitely suffered....but thankfully we're on the right track.  I'm still not feeling 100% (one week is not going to make up for months of no sleep!) but I'm certainly feeling a thousand times better than I have in a long time.

                                                                   sleeping in church

                                                                    such a stinker!




The other breakthrough around here is that Shae' FINALLY started saying "Mama" yesterday!  I can't believe it took her so long, but she's saying it now :)  "Mama" was Carters first word at about 8 months old.  Shae' was saying "Dada" by 6 months old.  Go figure she'd put me through so much sleeplessness and not even say my name for so long.  She is a stinker for sure!  But she's my stinker and I love her to pieces.  And somehow my love for her has grown since she's started sleeping better. HA!

catching up....

Oh boy...where do I begin?  I can't believe it's been so long since I posted, but then again I can.  What have I been up to?  Well...walking around in a fog sounds about accurate.  Sweet baby Shae' has been going through a horrible phase of waking up all through the night.  *sigh*  It started months ago when she was ready for solids, but everytime we gave them to her it hurt her tummy too bad.  Well, after taking her to a natural healing specialist, thank goodness that has gotten better.  She's been eating rice cereal for over a week now along with other foods, and has had no tummy issues from it!  This in itself has been an answer to many, many prayers.  We're still trying to get the food thing figured out...she doesn't show a lot of interest in baby food, and there's not much table food she can have yet, so it's a slow going process....but at least it's going!


Teething has also been a recent issue.  It has kept her up at night as well.  It just feels like one thing after another around here.   The last few nights I don't even know what the issue has been.  I'm beginning to think she just hates me at night.....because she is a doll baby during the day.  Happy, naps well, content.....but when bedtime comes that all goes out the window.  There have been nights in the last few weeks where I have literally been up every hour with her.....this has led me to being pretty much delirious.  I feel so sleep deprived I can't think straight during the day, I'm tired all the time, etc. etc.  *insert violins here*


So....that has been the last 6 weeks or so for me it seems.  Oh, we've had some good days, they are just followed by really bad nights.  


On a positive note:  this crazy girl has started crawling, pulling to her knees, standing on her feet and even walking along furniture a bit all in the last month.  She's everywhere!  I do not remember Carter being this active...and he certainly wasn't this young.  She wants to walk so bad.....I really think she'll be doing it before I know it.   Needless to say, as a result of her pulling up on everything now, we've had lots of bumps and bruises going on.  She's one tough cookie, though and just keeps going :)


I better brag on Carter for a minute too :)  My smart just-turned-3 year old is learning so rapidly I hardly feel I can keep up!  He knows all of his letters, the sounds they make, can spell his name, write his name and can even read a few words.  He's learning how to sound out the letters to make the words.  I'm so amazed at how fast he's learning!  And he LOVES letters!  He is constantly reading off the letters he sees written in books, on vehicles, stickers, anywhere!   I am going to start him in the ABC's of ACE program this fall.  I know it's a kindergarden program and he's only preschool age, but I really think he's ready for it.  We'll see anyway!


Ahhh....so that's my life in a nutshell!  Now you see why I haven't posted much....although everyday has been something new around here,  it comes out sounding more or less boring in a post :)

Carter's 3!!!

I must confess to getting a little emotional last night when it came time to put Carter in bed.  As I was reading to him I couldn't stop thinking that my sweet baby, my 1st baby, is now a big boy. :( *sniff*  I know people say this all the time, but it REALLY does feel like yesterday that I was heading to the hospital to have him.  Roughly 22 hours after checking in to the hospital, our sweet baby boy arrived!  I can still feel that excitement!  I love both of my babies, but there is definitely something special about the first born.  That excitement and anticipation of being a first time parent, learning everything for the first time....it's all so special.  

So...about my Carter....

  He is the sweetest little boy I know.  He is SO helpful, loves to clean up his toys, help mommy around the house, help daddy in the yard.   He surprises me so often with what all he is capable of when it comes to working and cleaning.   I'm so thankful he has inherited his daddy's servants heart.  He is a giver, through and through. :)   And loving.....he will give hugs and kisses to pretty much anyone.  He loves to cuddle and won't go to sleep at night without a hug.   When he sees his mommy, daddy or sister act like they are in pain, he wants to know where is their "boo boo"?  When you show him, he will pray for you, then kiss it.  Then he'll ask, "all better?"  

  He's the best big brother....always concerned about "baby Shae'".  He gets upset when she has to take a nap because he wants her in the room with him.  Every morning when he sees her for the first time, he smiles and gives her a big hug and kiss.  I can't wait to see their relationship grow.

  He's learning like crazy right now.  He knows his alphabet, most of his shapes and colors and can count to 20.  He can spell his name and quote several scriptures.  He also knows COUNTLESS songs.  I'm amazed by this.  He will hear a song one time and a week later I'll hear him singing it out of the blue....and he'll know all the words.  The kid amazes me with something new everyday. 

  I love you Carter.  You have changed our lives forever.  You are just what our family needed.   

Below is a song I wrote for Carter when he was newborn.  I sang it to him everyday for at least the first year.  Now he can sing it with me and we sing it together to Shae' sometimes :)

"I love you Carter

 I love you Carter

Yes, oh yes, oh yes I do

I love your little toes

And your button nose

I love you Carter

I love you Carter

Yes, oh yes, oh yes I do

And when you grow up

When you're all grown up

I'll still be loving you"

Happy Birthday Carter!!!

His last night as a 2 year old :)

His birthday breakfast :)

My handsome little man :)